I think at some stage or another we have all been guilty of not asking for what we wanted. It may be that we have been happy to go with the flow of what others have wanted to do, have not had an opinion or that we have put our needs second. Most of the time I would say we do have an opinion as do our children.
Some of the children I see find it deeply frustrating going along with others plans but don’t speak up because they fear they will upset the other person. It is important that you get them to voice their needs otherwise they will always end up doing what their friends or family want. Do they want to be doing something they hate or would they prefer to do something they have an interest in?
To ease them into voicing their needs you can give them a choice about what they want to do. Rather than ask them such as, ‘What would you like to do?’ say something like, ‘Would you like to go to the cinema or bowling?’
How else could encourage a child to ask for what they need or want?